Life by Sar

Everywhere I turn, I see and hear about people struggling with issues related to commitment. I'm no exception. At a point in my life I was a TC-PQ-B (Total Commitment Phoebe Queen B). I struggled when it came to ordering off a menu. If I liked a shirt in two different colours I bought 'em both. Maybe the shirt thing was a different problem all together. Come to think of it, it was: If I found a shirt I loved, not available in my exact size- I bought the larger size so that I could shrink it and I also bought the smaller one thinking that it will some day fit me when I finally work off my Frosh 10. Anyways, back to commitment issues. In today's world people suffer from commitment issues for I think two main reasons 1) They've been burned BAD in the past and 2) They don't know how to because it's not that common any more. The first reason is internal, complicated and blah because you've been wronged. This also stems from feeling abandoned and not trusting y...

Have you ever contemplated brain lobotomy after an embarrassing moment, a bad break-up, or finding out something you wish you never did? I never really thought about it until a friend brought it up. For those who don't know, a brain lobotomy is a neurosurgical procedure that consists of cutting the connections to and from the prefrontal cortex (courtesy of wikipedia).It's a procedure used to control or reduce the effects of a whole bunch of mental disorders. In a nutshell, it disassociates emotional attachment to painful memories. I'm sure if it were an effective and successful procedure it would be as common as Botox. Sure it looks painful (seriously gory and painful) but let's pretend it's not. My question is, if the practice was safe, affordable and widely available would you consider it? Would you want to disconnect your feelings and emotions from a particular distressing memory? I like to believe that there is a whole lot of unnecessary bullshit I have put up...

I'm no relationship expert. It's the truth. But there is one thing I am absolutely certain of when it comes to men and women. It honestly came as a shock to me when I discovered that men and women are different on so many levels. I mean, it makes an awful lot of sense but it didn't quite become a fact of life until someone said it to me... out loud. The more I repeated it, the more I adapted to it. In the end, I don't think it's important to understand all of our differences, but we should remember they exist. By the way, I must warn you this information is solely based on things I've come across. Evolution Did you know that all male mammals other then humans practice polygamy? It's part of a man's human instinct to want to spread his seeds everywhere. Women on the other hand, are selective and extremely careful who they give themselves to. When a woman selects a man to bear her offspring it's because she views him as the best provider possible. W...

I met up with an old friend for coffee who I haven't seen since High School. She began by telling me she's in a much better place compared to 12 months ago. The last 12 months have been about HER. She has been traveling around the world, taking up new hobbies and writing about her experiences. I wasn't surprised when she told me that she was inspired to do so after she ended a serious relationship. I personally know many girls who went through similar transformations. She was a serial relationship girl. However, I was surprised about her journey since High School. My impression of her in grade nine was a strong and determined girl who had a good head on her shoulders. I guess things changed after her first relationship (at the age of 15) with a guy that treated her like crap. They were together for about 3 years until she grew the courage to move away for university (I think this was the only way she knew how to get away from him). But it didn't stop there. Shortly afte...