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Men are different? You don't say,

I'm no relationship expert. It's the truth. But there is one thing I am absolutely certain of when it comes to men and women. It honestly came as a shock to me when I discovered that men and women are different on so many levels. I mean, it makes an awful lot of sense but it didn't quite become a fact of life until someone said it to me... out loud. The more I repeated it, the more I adapted to it. In the end, I don't think it's important to understand all of our differences, but we should remember they exist. By the way, I must warn you this information is solely based on things I've come across.

Evolution
Did you know that all male mammals other then humans practice polygamy? It's part of a man's human instinct to want to spread his seeds everywhere. Women on the other hand, are selective and extremely careful who they give themselves to. When a woman selects a man to bear her offspring it's because she views him as the best provider possible. Women are jealous creatures, when they find what they consider is the best, they want to keep the best to themselves. Are you with me so far? I don't think these traits apply to all men and women but it is something that has followed us through evolution .

Communication
What do we (women) do when we have a problem? TALK ABOUT IT! It just makes complete sense to TALK ABOUT IT! We talk to everyone. We take into consideration everyone and their mom's opinion when we feel passionate about something. It's our way of conceptualizing and rationalizing our thoughts and feelings. It's our way of generating solutions. When you approach a girl friend with a problem that's you asking for an opinion or advice. Men on the other hand are the complete opposite. Sure they talk about their issues but its usually to vent unless otherwise stated. When a man is looking for advice or an opinion he will ask you for it. This is why many relationships struggle in the beginning. You have to train yourselves to understand and respect each others ways. I used to make the mistake of expecting him to understand or know when I want to talk about something. Believe me, the only reason why our communication improved is because I learned to S-P-E-L-L out what I needed and when I needed it. Like literally! But once you get the hang of it your relationship becomes much stronger. I realized that all I had to do was get over the fact that men are not psychics! Keep in mind, compatibility also has to do a lot with it too. There are some people that find it easier to communicate then others. Communication barriers are circumstantial to personality, maturity, and your up bringing. There are a lot of factors that play a role in how well you communicate. But for me personally, this was a common element in many of my relationships.

I could go on and on and on about relationships (true story), but I don't want to base this blog all on me. Over  the years I've learned a lot about our differences. Mainly through books, experiences and life as it happened. If you're really interested on learning more about these differences OR want to learn more about relationship psychology I highly recommend the following two books:


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