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Stop with the Man-Showers

There are no such things.

Don't believe me? Google it and take a look at the visual confirmations.

I don’t even know what you’re talking about. 

There is no such thing as a MAN SHOWER. There are Bridal Showers & Baby Showers and if the Father-to-be truly feels left out then he is more than welcome to join. But let us call it what it is... a Baby Shower.

I refuse to understand how some men (and women) managed to make this about themselves. A Baby Shower is about the BABY and sometimes we celebrate the Mommy by including a tube of coco butter to minimize the appearance of stretch marks- again- for “your” viewing pleasure! We don’t have a separate occasion to commemorate the agonizing physical experience of giving birth. Regardless, you don’t see us calling it a “Mommy Shower”!! 

Also just as an FYI,  We don’t drink at baby showers and we certainly don’t invite strippers. Maybe a fun “Poker Night” with a diaper buy-in is a cool idea (because it shows some consideration towards your baby) but there is no need to get over-creative by calling it a Man Shower. It’s either a Baby Shower OR your lame ass excuse to have another Bachelor Party. You don’t get to combine the two and come up with your own useless logic behind it and call it a Man Shower.

To the women behind this monstrosity please stop encouraging it. This is about the baby and the experience of giving birth. Not every “first” experience requires a party. You don’t see anyone throwing you a “Rag Shower” or a “Menzies Graduation”??

Give me a freaking break.
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  1. Mahesh Chandra13 October 2011 at 12:54

    My question is, why are woman in general so keen on having showers to begin with?

    As per the bridal shower, you have that + a bachelorette/stagette party.

    And if the baby shower was suppose to be for the baby, why would you exclude the father, and concentrate it primarily on the mother.
    If the father feel's excluded on that fact, by all means he should have a Bro-Baby Shower, and I agree have it focused on the new born, but include the father to be and provide gifts to ease the transition into father hood.

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  2. Travel Foodie13 October 2011 at 13:22

    Who doesn't want to be "showered" with gifts? Sorry, I didn't mean to answer your question with a question. I just think it's customary.

    The reason why fathers were excluded in the beginning is bc birth and children were considered a "Women's Affair"- a perception practiced by society. Men did not participate in birth or the upbringing of a child. Nowadays, things have changed. So I understand why Fathers would want to feel included. But what I don't agree with is turning it into a booze fest with clubbing and bottle service.

    I agree with your bridal shower/bach comment. Normally people hosted one or the other. Now they are treated as separate occasions. Where bridal showers are for family and family friends and Bach parties/stags are with your closest girlfriends. Also, before it was just called a "bridal shower" where you had dinner with ladies from your fam circle and then headed out to party with your friend circle. I guess people split it up for the convenience.

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  3. Anonymous13 October 2011 at 13:55

    Nice post :) It's just sumthin to do...... I threw one for my hubby and his boys while I had mine with the girls. I didn't think anything of it..... I thought its better this way so the guys don't get bored. All they did was play cards, drink and than went to a bar...... but I see what your saying. For me baby showers are not all that fun for the girls..... we ate, had lots of sweets and played a lot of games?? The boys could've been a part of the shower instead of having their own.... The extra gifts were nice though :)

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  4. Anonymous13 October 2011 at 14:02

    LMAO!!!! "Rag Shower" and "Menzies Graduation" Only you!!

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  5. Anonymous13 October 2011 at 14:42

    I went to a out of town "man shower" that was filled with booze and partying and I got to say it was super fun. I don't see why woman would have a problem with it? If its a chance for the father to be to spend some QT with his homies before he takes on new responsibilities and decreased time for his friends then so be it. Better to do it before the baby pops then after, right? Nobody said baby showers had to be lame affairs sitting around eating baby food from a diaper and mediocre spinach dip. Go out and have fun. Get your nails did, hit the casino or go to a spa. If you want to say its an occasion for the baby then that's fine. However male friends will usually buy the baby a gift AFTER he/she is born. That's just the way we operate. I for one salute this new trend and anyone who's hating is just jealous. Stop sippin the hateroade. Live and let live :)

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  6. Travel Foodie13 October 2011 at 22:36

    Thanks for the comments everyone! Here are my responses

    Anonymous 1
    Who wrote: Nice post :) It's just sumthin to do...
    I'm all for including the boys and I truly think it should be a a joint celebration. If we're all celebrating the baby it makes sense to do it together. More the Merrier!

    Anonymous 2
    Who wrote: LMAO!!!! "Rag Shower" ...
    Haha I'm glad you enjoyed that. I was worried some people might not catch on to the references.

    Anonymous 3
    Who wrote: I went to a out of town "man shower"
    Sounds like you Guys had a great time! And I'm all for it too. But let's just call it what it is. It is essentially a boys night out. I'm not hating on that nor suggesting your reasons for having one are wrong or invalid. I'm just saying that the whole point of a baby shower is to celebrate the experience of birth and the baby.

    Which leads me to my point: "man showers" and "baby showers" are incomparable because they focus on two different things. If a man shower is supposed to be the male alternative to a baby shower than it should be about the baby and not about having quality time with the boys.

    "Live and let live" only applies when you're living your own life. Having a child changes that. I'm sure many women would like to party it up before the baby arrives. But all of that changes the minute you find out you're pregnant. I'm just wondering why it should be any different for the father-to-be?

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  7. Travel Foodie13 October 2011 at 22:43

    ALSO...YES.... I realize that I was calling it a "BRO shower" when it should have been "Man shower". Thanks for catching that!

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  8. Anonymous15 October 2011 at 10:14

    Ya, there is no point to a MAN SHOWER if its just like any other Friday/Saturday night!!!

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