Life by Sar

Since we're 'ALL' getting engaged lately.. What ever happened to realistic marriage proposals? Don't get me wrong. I'm not old fashioned nor am I hating. But things have definitely gotten out of hand (don't even get me started on destination: EVERYWHERE Bach parties). I'm in my late twenties, everywhere I turn people are either talking about getting engaged/married or actually getting engaged/married. It's great because it comes with my age. It's natural to think about settling down and starting a family. Great. But, what's up with this ever growing pissing contest of which man can come up with a better "Will you marry me...."? Just hear me out. What ever happened to classy, thoughtful and romantic proposals? I mean seriously, have you heard about Seal and Heidi Klum's proposal? I don't care how much you make, but building a customized igloo on top of Whistler for the purpose of proposing is a little over the top. Haterade asi...

Elements of RPM (Results, Purpose, Massive action plan) 1)       Specifically ask for what you want   More often than not, you are getting what you ask for. But you don’t realize how "generally" you are asking. CLARITY IS POWER the more specifically you ask the more clear it is for your brain to go after exactly what it is that you’re looking for. You have to know specifically what you are after. You have to know the result of what you are looking for. 2)       Purpose, why do you want this   Reasons come first, the answers come second. You have to know what you want to build the drive to want it. If you do not have enough reasons to want something you are not going to make it happen 3)       What is your Massive Action plan What is it going to take to actually get you there? The first plan and the second plan may not work, are you prepared? Do you have many back up plans.   For more in...

                                                February 28th 2011: I've been feeling a little out of my element since January. Really, it's getting out of hand. This is an extremely crucial year that is going to define me for the rest of my life. But for some reason I don't  feel challenged and I don't seem to feel bothered by it as well. To sum it up, I feel MEH. Where is my drive? Where is my focus? Where is my desire? Like who do I think I am? I can't even explain how upset I've been with myself lately.... *  *  * I obviously needed a little push. A little reminder that I don't own a magic wand (e-Bay's got 'em if anyone's interested), haven't won the lottery (YET!), and I'm not some disguised princess living a middle class life either. ...

Good thoughts become good things. Bad thoughts become bad things. Thoughts become things. There are times we can't control what happens to us or what's happening around us. The only thing we can control is ourselves and how we react to it. Perception is everything. We feel and react based on our perception of the situation. So it's plausible to say that if we change our perception, we can change how we feel and thus how we react. Perception correlates with self-control. If you have self-control, you can control your perception. Defining self-control is difficult and quite subjective, for the purpose of this equation let's focus on one aspect of self-control. This is what I call the SAP (Self Administered Pause). When I'm dealt a difficult hand I give myself a minute to SAP. I take a deep breath and tell myself that thoughts become things. If I choose to think the worst, this situation will in fact consume me and become worse. If I choose to think for the better,...